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CONFIDENCE IS THE NEW YOU

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

1 Feb

FOREVER MOOD – Since God told me I’m going to get it I walk, talk, and act like already got it!!!! Confidence on a million! Shyness can’t stop me! Introvert won’t stop me! Past won’t stop me! Insecurities won’t stop me! Playing small won’t stop me! God told me it’s MINE!!!! From here on out I’M OWNING IT because confidence is the new me!!!

(Insert dancing emoji)

Problem with playing small, insecure, timid, and not feeling good enough minimize accomplishments, seek validation and approval from others, feel unworthy of calling on your life, and focus on flaws.

Where does the problem begin???

CHILDHOOD

Most behaviors are learned including shyness and insecurities. Good news with practice can learn confidence and unlearn shyness. You’re probably shy due to your family being introverts, not much social interactions, like to be alone, only child, don’t like your voice, or insecure about not articulating well.

NETWORKING

Sometimes minimum social interactions cause social anxiety. But guess what boo when you get uncomfortable you can become an extrovert if you want or person who exudes confidence when engaging others! No more shyness or living in fear put yourself out there! Only way to overcome social anxiety is to surround yourself around new people and challenge yourself to socialize more. Dare to spark conversation with strangers. Trick to overcoming social awkwardness is being curious about others and ask questions. I’m lucky as an introvert attract extroverts who challenge me to open up, elaborate my short and sweet responses to explain in detail.

Practice makes perfect get use to being uncomfortable as you evolve into confident woman. Confident on a billion when you step into room with people with higher social status level like lawyers, doctors, President, CEOs no matter if you are a administrative assistant or no college degree walk up in there like you own the place just as worthy to be in the same room with boldness and confidence! Win people with who God created you to be gentle, humorous, kick butt personality, and biggest heart!

“Therefore since we have such a hope, we are very BOLD” – 2 Corinthians 3:12 (NIV)

FREE TO BE YOU

Real freedom comes from not impressing people or caring what others think! Trying to impress people hinders your self-confidence worrying:will they like me, will they judge me, what if they laugh at me, and why are they talking about me. Give your best and that’s all you can do. When people try to use your insecurities to hurt your feelings but now you laugh and confirm yeah you right I use to feel that way but look at me now do a twirl for them to shock them because they knew what use to hurt you. Now they have nothing to say cause surely won’t boost your greatness only what they thought would hurt you. “When another talks bad about you don’t respond. Pray for her. She sees something in you doesn’t see in herself”.

God is looking for people not afraid to step out the box, rise above social standards, and don’t compare or compete with others. God given purpose and talents will require radical confidence so stop caring what others think. What’s for you doesn’t have to make sense to people. God qualifies you not people. God gives you favor not people. Girl listen I’m so free you can catch me dancing off beat when no one else is dancing on the dance floor, in the car, supermarket, and gym wherever music is vibing lol. I’m free as a bird I’ll overdress to casual events not trying to blend in just being me letting personality shine bright, and loving it.

“So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised”. – Hebrews 10:35-36 (NIV)

IDENTITY IN CHRIST

Confidence is rooted in Christ. You’re worthy because of the blood. It takes some of us too long to be secure and confident. Saddens me to listen to women in their 50s, 60s, 70s still insecure. Bashing self can’t take compliments without doubting or downplaying it. I know we are suppose to be humble but there is a big difference between being humble and putting yourself down. Well I’m here to affirm you are cute, awesome, powerful, and anointed. Biblically we are fearfully and wonderfully made, he has not given us timid spirit but boldness, and more precious than rubies so we should walk in this authority.

One of my favorite scripture is Proverbs 3:15 – She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her! I can balance self-confidence with humbleness. I know confidence comes from God. Humble enough to live by grace and humanity but wise enough to know my worth and nothing you desire can compare with her!! Toot!! Toot!! I don’t think I’m cute I KNOW I AM CUTE!!! Walk it like I talk it aye!

“Develop confidence only in Christ. He gives us what we need to do through his will just have to believe it”. – Joyce Meyer

SELF- IMAGE

How confident are you beyond surface level of dressing up, make up, and image you betray to the world?  When staring at your naked body in the mirror with bright lights on what thoughts race through your mind? Do you admire your body or can’t stand to look at yourself? When take photos are you looking for flaws or beauty?  “Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud” is true because insecure women body shame self and others. Change what you say about yourself.  Confidence begins with controlling negative thoughts and words. Don’t call yourself names. Reprogram your thoughts by telling yourself positive affirmations “not today or tomorrow I love me! I love my body! I will think, speak, and behave as such”.

Sure way to feel inadequate is comparing yourself to other women. Idolizing how perfect her skin is and wishing you had same shape and waistline. Embrace your own beauty and uniqueness. Confident women love self inside and out, poise, compliments other women, and her radiance attracts men and women.

“Confidence begins with self – acceptance” – Joyce Meyer

HAIR DONE EVERYTHING DONE

Guess what helped me gain self-confidence on a deeper level? Transitioning to natural hair! Baby let me tell you the struggle was real learning how to wash, detangle, style, and find right hair products!! I started natural hair journey after college. Let me be real at first didn’t feel as confident with natural hair compared to perm and straight hair. I remember crying to my mom until she caved in to perm my super thick and untamed hair in the 5th grade because I went to predominantly white school on top of playing with white Barbie dolls with straight hair impacted me. So dramatic at that age thought something was wrong with my big puffy hair breaking hair combs often lol. My mom didn’t want me to get a perm and I should have listened. But now I know God gave me textured hair and he created me in his perfect image. With perseverance and lots of bad hair days 8 years later I’m confident rocking my afro call me afrolicious (lol).

Walk, talk, live, and breathe … CONFIDENCE

HOPE YOU ARE ENCOURAGED!

Peace, Love, & Blessings!

XOXO Go Patty💋 😘

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  1. Alexis says

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    Love it! 💕 I can definitely say starting my natural hair journey made me more confident! It’s something about saying yes to the natural you! 👑

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      Thanks Alexis!!!! Agreed! Saying yes to the natural you is sooooo worth it!!!!

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